The Importance of Good Manners

Imaam Muqbil Al-Waadi'ee (rahimahullah)

Question: 

"We find some of the Salafiyoon harsh in their speech and in their Da`wah and with their families; And if they see a man who is not from amongst them, they grimace at him, which is contrary to what we find from the Ikhwaan al-Muslimeen; Good manners is what is lacking in us, so we need sincere advice from you, and may Allaah reward you with good."

Answer: 

"This is an important matter and that is to advise one another about good manners. Allaah, سبحانه و تعالى, says regarding the Prophet, ﷺ:

"And verily, you (O Muhammad ﷺ) are on an exalted standard of character."[Qur'aan 68:4]

And He, سبحانه و تعالى, says:

"And by the Mercy of Allaah, you dealt with them gently. And had you been severe and harsh-hearted, they would have broken away from about you; so pass over (their faults), and ask (Allaah's) Forgiveness for them; and consult them in the affairs. Then when you have taken a decision, put your trust in Allaah, certainly, Allaah loves those who put their trust (in Him)."[Qur'aan 3:159]

And this (harsh) Salafi was probably a beginner in seeking knowledge, as the norm with beginners is that they are a little zealous and harsh - whether he is a Salafi or Ikhwaani or other than that. And this is what we and others have experienced. Otherwise, and all Praise is due to Allaah (Alone), our brothers freely mix with their brothers in al-Hudaydah, Taa`iz, Aden and Hadramout, and the people receive them and welcome them with love and respect, and this is evidence that they are exposed to good and honourable manners, wAllaahul-Musta`aan (Allaah is the One from whom Assistance is sought)

[Shaykh Muqbil ibn Haadee al-Waadi'ee, رحمه الله. Ghaaratul-Ashritah `alaa Ahlil-Jahli was-Safsatah. Volume 1, Page 89]

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